Haters, it sounds like a term we only use in high school or around crowds of immature people but I’m finding out even in my late 20’s they definitely still exist. As much as I feel I’ve matured, there are some people who still want to watch you go down.
I’ve gone through hell and back in my life but I chose to make good decisions and better my life. I don’t think I’m better than anyone by any means. In fact, I love to help people out a lot! I want to see people do well, succeed in their dreams and be happy. This kind of attitude WILL get taken advantage of in the city of angels. It’s cut throat here. I had to learn that the hard way when I helped certain individuals obtain things I’ve worked my butt off for. What took me blood sweat and tears to do, was easy for people I helped since I gave them that knowledge and boost to move up in life without consequences that I suffered. I don’t mind doing that...until it was taken advantage of.
I’ve had people bash me, and talk bad behind my bad to friends, coworkers, superiors, and family. They made up things that were untrue to make me look bad. Why? I have no idea why someone would treat someone that way after helping them out! People tell me “it’s LA, what did you expect?” Well consider it lesson learned. The answer to that question though, is jealousy.
Trust me. I’m the last person who wants to sit here and say people hate me because they are jealous. It sounds so high school. Well it’s true whether I like it or not. People are going to be haters. Some people are in a place where they hate themselves or how their life is that they do not want to see other people succeed.
These people are negative individuals and I would suggest if you have someone in your life like this, you should avoid them. Don’t even waste your time being fake nice or giving them the benefit of the doubt. I don’t suggest you be mean to them or stoop to their level but don’t let your boundaries down. You can’t trust what these people do or say about you so you never want to give out too much information around them.
I’ve found more so recently with the weight loss that more and more people want to see me fail. I’ve had people tell me I would gain the weight back and most of the time, people just ignore the weight loss and say nothing. I know it’s noticeable, and I don’t expect attention but I can tell when they are biting their tongue from saying anything. It’s okay though. I’m not doing it for anyone else or to impress anyone so at the end of the day their efforts mean nothing. I’m also a female gamer (not that it’s special or anything but I do get treated differently) I’ve had another female come up to me when I was wrecking noobs, and asked “what are you doing? Breaking stuff?” And it wasn’t in a nice context either. I ignored her and kept getting head shots. I didn’t let let what some hater had to say affect my KD. I get this stuff on the daily. I’ve been gaming since I was a toddler, I have years of experience, but don’t hate me because I’m good. Get better and challenge me. That goes with anyone. Set your goals high and get better. Use those people as challenges to improve your skills instead of hating. What I really want to say... to those of you doing great things, it could be losing weight, purchasing a home, new job, or whatever makes you happy in life, you are going to have someone jealous of you. There will always be someone that has something to say. Sometimes you have a feeling, sometimes they are good at hiding it, or sometimes they are obvious. Don’t feed into their negativity, distance yourself from them, and don’t be fake nice. They don’t deserve your hard work and attention. Remember everyone wants to see you do well but not better than them!
Lets get into the psychology of a hater. I personally don’t have the time or energy to hate someone. I have too much to do... so Why would a person spend so much time hating on someone else’s life? Here are a few reasons I can think of and it also depends on the person. Some are worse than others.
They hate their life or themselves and do not want to see people do better. They could choose to do better but that is too much effort, so it’s easier to hate.
They expect to be better and expect things to be handed to him
They are unhappy
They just don’t like you
They are jealous
Someone else treated them that way and the behavior is learned and reproduced
They are selfish
So to the people reading this, just smile, and keep doing you. Don’t let these people waste your energy. I’ve known for a while certain people don’t like me but oh well. How does worrying about them or talking about them benefit me and my dreams? Keep your head high, smile, ignore that drama and keep doing your thing. Karma will take care of them. I truly wish the best for everyone but after experiencing the betrayal with particular individuals, I will not longer bend over backwards to help anyone like that again but I will still continue to offer my input and knowledge to those who truly deserve it. I think people should work hard on their own but not fully depend on someone else to succeed. Winners don’t keep winning, real winners never quit. Take that negative energy and turn it positive! Keep your eye on your goals and let the haters waste their time hating. We got big goals in mind and we ain’t got time fo that.
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